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Parenting Moment: In God’s Presence

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“You’ve let bitterness, sadness, and anger in.”

My child’s diagnosis of my problem after observing me for a few minutes was sadly close to the truth. Life here had been crazy, and I was on my last leg. When one more thing had gone wrong, I’d broken down.

Moms, if we’re going to be the examples we need to be for our children and not let sin take over, we have to spend time with Jesus. I know we can’t always get the type of time we did before children, but we must find ways to still our heart in His Word and presence. In life’s busiest, craziest times, it’s the most important thing, not the least.

There’s nothing wrong with admitting that we need to stop and pray—or excusing ourselves for a time out to calm our hearts and remind ourselves of the truth. I’ve also found memorizing Scripture with my child to be so helpful—the Proverbs especially are helping me remember to choose better responses. We work together on applying the verse throughout the day, reminding one another.

As we start a new year, it’s also a great time to think through habits that can help us stay regularly in God’s Word. A wise old woman told me as a teen to make a priority of reading something every day–even if just a small amount. She knew developing that as a habit would serve me well. Remember, it’s in God’s presence that we’ll find the strength we need to mother well.

Splendor and majesty are before him; strength and beauty are in his sanctuary.

Psalm 96:6 (ESV)
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Parenting Moment: Your Children Are Watching You

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“I like spicy food, just like Daddy.”

It’s cute when our children want to be just like Mommy and Daddy, but it’s also a bit sobering. After all, they’re watching how we handle life’s daily trials…and copying us.

We all know how irritating it is when our child decides to whine and complain instead of complying quickly. But do we whine and complain to God? Are we setting the example of cheerfully embracing what God Sovereignly allows each day, even if it goes against everything we wanted? Most of us would say “yes” if God Himself showed up and said “this is my plan,” but we tend to forget that He is Sovereign over every detail in our lives, which means every little irritation and upset to our plans happened with His okay. Do we get angry or worried by life’s interruptions, or do we embrace them as a trial God has allowed and praise Him through it?

We all want our children to react well when their friends act poorly—to be courageous leaders. But do we keep our hearts at peace when our children act foolishly or are in a bad mood? Are we showing them how to truly be courageous leaders, not letting those around them negatively affect how they live?

And how are we handling our failures (which we ALL have)? Do we try to hide them, or are we honest about how much we need Jesus and modeling repentance?

If we want our light to shine for our children so they glorify God (Matthew 5:14-16), we have to be humble and honest about how much we need Jesus every day, and about how it’s His strength that helps us overcome.

Our children are watching us. They’re learning by how we live.